momdusa: Before Monster High (and back when I was working) I was obsessed with Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab (I still am, I just can’t get to their events as regularly as I used to bigsaltymermaidtears.gif) I was wondering if I had as many dolls now, as I had bottles of the most heart wrenchingly delicious perfume a body’s ever smelled, so I counted. There are 130 in the middle drawer alone and a quick count of the bottom drawer + the full converse box to the left + the ones on top = about 150 more…. I would need a hundred more dolls if I wanted to make them even XD Moderation? I don’t know the meaning of the word Buahaha I’m not alone…
A crash course on non-disney films and studios (sequels not included; list is not exhaustive)
Pokemon drawing challenge - Day 1, Bug!
I decided to do a little pokemon drawing challenge to get back into drawing every day.
I had a hard time choosing my favorite bug pokemon, but somehow Joltik snuck his way out of my pen when I wasn’t looking. I love this little guy! <3 Maybe I’ll do my other favorites at a later day. Sorry Volcarona, you were my runner up!
I might post more than one a day to do a little catching up, since I started late.
I don’t like to talk about myself on this blog. It’s not About Me, you know? I like to write about politics and social justice, and this is where I do it, generally free from navel-gazing. But now, something that’s affecting me is apparently affecting hundreds of thousands of…
Just a reminder, as the temps drop, the number of homeless showing up in shelters skyrockets across the country. Shelters are currently scrambling for beds and supplies to care for their needs. If you can spare a few bucks for your local shelter, or ask what they need, it may be…
Actually. I know from experience. Not just volunteering, but staying in shelters.
If you wanted to help shelters both for men and women there’s three big ways.
First: Money, there’s very few if any government run overnight shelters for the homeless. They rely heavily on donations to operate.
Second: Toiletries: ALL not some, ALL shelters need donations for personal hygiene items. They don’t have to be fancy or even anything beyond dollar store. Just get lots. the most needed items are usually
- Razors and shave cream
- Feminine hygiene products
- Hand and skin cream
- Cough drops, lozenges, Tylenol and any other OTC items that prove useful for people who live exposed and often unable to receive regular medical contacts. Most shelters have a nurse or medic who helps out and they need as much of this stuff as they can get.
- Often those small travel bottles of toiletries you see at drug stores and Walmart are useful, It’s difficult to share a full size bottle of shampoo and requires some type of extra work. The travel bottles are easily distributed or saved by the recipient. Get those and you’re in like Flynn! (BTW the movie Being Flynn and the book its from called Another Bullshit Night In Suck City are great exposure to how shelters really are).
- Call them and ask. I GUARANTEE they have a list.
THIRD: what in the old days general stores would call Sundry Items.
- Underwear (men and women)
- T-Shirts - PLAIN T-Shirts. These people don’t need to wear your cast off vacation shirts if you can help it. It’s a little thing but sometimes a person will refuse a shirt just because of what is on it. It could be for many reasons. Just play it safe and get plain shirts.
- In colder places, gloves, hats and scarves.
- Books. My experience is that if a person living out there finds a good book, it can be the biggest pleasure they know.
- Pads of paper, notebooks, pens and pencils. Many shelters offer workshops and these help there. Or they can be given out (you’re here on Tumblr, you get how much it helps to just write)
- $5 phone and lower long distance cards. There’s always a need for these. For a million reasons. Don’t get any higher value ones though. They tend to just get traded out for…whatever. Or they never leave the office.
- Laundry soap and softeners and bleach - for the shelter. Many have laundry facilities and this is the only way these people get clean clothes.
- Cleaning supplies. That stuff is costly and for every $5 going to floor cleaner it’s $5 less in the budget for feet on the ground services.
- Call them and ask. I GUARANTEE they have a list.
This is a basic list and different places may need different things. Most places don’t want food and such UNLESS THEY ASK FOR THEM! Don’t try to foist off your leftover pumpkin pie filling!
Also don’t be whimsical. This is real, man. You have a 3 lbs bag of jelly beans, you may think ‘Oh I bet it’ll be the sunshine in their dark day’. Nope! They’ll sit in the corner untouched because it’s just damn impractical. Same goes for trying to “personalize” donations. It’s demeaning and unnecessary. These guys and gals don’t need a note telling them “You’re beautiful!” tucked into their socks. Save the spreading sunshine for Tumblr. Put it on a picture of some teenage chick staring at the water. This isn’t about you. The streets are a motherfucker and the needs there are real, tactile and practical.
Finally, if you practice a faith OF ANY KIND. Please don’t include that, Bibles, Korans or any other articles of faith while meaningful to you. And heartwarming and hopeful. In the face of a person struggling to be alive it’s just rude. It’s like saying “Well if you just did this, you wouldn’t be like that” and it is condescending and insulting. Homelessness is homelessness, not a lack of spiritual fiber. There’s a time and place to save souls, if that’s your thing, but making a donation laced with religious items is not it. It just says one thing to these guys and gals; I am doing this only to further MY agenda. And we all hate having someone else’s agenda heaped on us.
Mostly remember, these are people. They have a lot of reasons for being where they are. None of them are your business. Sure some of the donations will get sold, stolen and traded. I’ve seen crack dealers wearing mighty nice jeans just after a van load of clothes came in from Levi’s. But most of the donations go to help, I guarantee that. Most go to those that are simply asking for compassion and who have a real need. When you give to a shelter and they in turn share out what you give, it helps. Because man I tell you, nothing restores yourself than the feeling of a shower and shave and clean socks and underwear after living for weeks in the same one or two pairs and occasional whore’s bath in a gas station bathroom. You feel a little better about you, when you’re clean. You don’t gain a whole bus load of hope and the feeling anything is possible. You just…Feel better. You dig?
My own story: I spent a Christmas in a homeless shelter and got a bag with socks, underwear and small toiletries and a gift card for coffee or donuts. Nothing too much to carry (remember homeless people don’t have linen closets, pantries and junk drawers) and it was maybe the nicest gift I could have gotten. It made me feel a little less separate from the rest of the world as I sat on the bunk and opened my little present. It made the day a little less sad.
Hey dude who I don’t follow or follow me who originally posted this, sorry for the hijack, but I thought it was important.
Always see “real women” posts so here’s one for the dudes.
this says so much. I wish there were more posts like this. please.
body positivity and realistic body standards are important for guys too!
Men are constantly reassured that it’s okay to oogle women and harrass them about their looks. Women rarely see sexualized images of men that are made for women.
Guys get eye candy everywhere they go. Their sexual gaze is constantly catered to. Women, at least hetero women, are rarely given the opportunity to have their sexual interest entertained. We’re told that we should be okay with having nothing to look at. That our fantasies don’t matter. That we shouldn’t ever even remotely expect to be able to eyeball a svelte man in public, only behind closed doors and heaven forbid that the man look vulnerable. So we finally get to see images that turn us on and people are like, “Hey, you can’t put that in magazines! that might hurt some little boy’s feelings!”
Men are given alternative physical images to aspire to. Women are not.
While yes, guys should be treated to body positivity too… they already are. Just watch TV or any comedy and count the number of pudgy, out of shape, male leads vs pudgy, out of shape female leads. Or the number of hairy, overweight, older men making block buster movies vs the number of hairy, overweight, older women. Now count how many times that male character has some incredibly smart, sexy wife who does everything for him. And then how many times she’s the butt of the joke when he gets hot for some woman who’s younger and thinner than she is.
Fuck, just look at the responses to women not shaving their legs vs the responses to guys not shaving off their stubble.
Name six movies about a woman above the age of forty who’s love interest is a man that’s younger than she is where the plot doesn’t revolve around her being the butt of a cougar or mom joke. Now name me six where a man over the age of forty’s love interest is a woman who’s significantly younger than he is. Bonus points for action movies where anyone in the movie makes a mention of the age difference.
How many times are male politician or CEO’s body or style of dress put into question? How many times are female’s? Or has everyone forgotten how we flip out when the president’s wife gets a new hair cut? Or how Hillary Clinton had to have a FUCKING MAKE OVER before the news agencies took her seriously? How many times was her daughter raked over the coals for looking like an average teenager?
What’s more, I’ve never heard any of my female friends or my mother and her female friends saying, “Why can’t my 50 year old husband get a six pack like that?” What I USUALLY here is “I wish my husband would get a nice hair cut.” or “I wish he’d wear some nicer clothes that actually fit him.”
But what i hear overhear men saying all time is, “No fat chicks!” or “I wish my wife had bigger boobs.”
I know a woman who’s husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t get a face lift and a boob job- she was so upset that she did it. She felt disgusting every day because she wasn’t a size six and he expected her to be a size six after bearing him four kids. My own uncle said if his wife got overweight that he’d drag her behind a car until she lost weight. These aren’t even “bad guys”! They seem like perfectly nice men when you meet them! But they’re taught from the moment they’re kids that all women need to be a certain body type to be worthy of any attention.
Men are told through our culture’s stories and media that a woman will still love them unconditionally and throw themselves at them if they’re fat, old, balding, or an asshole, while women are told that if they’re pushy, fat, old or wearing out of style clothes that they aren’t even worth mentioning.
Not to mention that those buff young men don’t actually cater to female interest, more like to the male power fantasy. Big muscles, angry eyes - these are the young alpha males. Some women might find them attractive, but the way they are presented in the pictures put them in position of power, not meek and submissive like those supple young girls with arched backs and half-lidded eyes in similar adverts.